the perfect social life

ML was recently telling me why she enjoys having her dinner at a bar and watching the bar TV. she said it's the perfect social interaction - other ppl are around - but she doesn't have to talk to anyone. for me, being in a bar is not as relaxing because i feel self conscious and i'm scared someone might talk to me. my most comfortable, social place is just riding the train. i feel like everyone in the car has a bond and is communicating silently, and if something terrible happened we would be totally bonded... so just knowing that, and standing so closely to everyone and observing them discreetly, makes me feel not alone. i also like how people follow the rules on the train- you know, which seats to sit in first, how to give others optimal personal space, how to get on and off the train, rules about eye contact, etc. it's comforting. when there is a crazy person saying a sermon or something, it creates an even stronger bond between us, because we are all listening, we are all aware, we are all going to work.